Starting out on your search to find the perfect surrogate match may feel like a lot of pressure. After all, the person you choose will be physically responsible for carrying your future baby…it’s a lot to process, and no small commitment. Even more so, matching with the right surrogate is critical to creating a smooth and pleasant surrogacy process. You’re going to want to get it right!

Whether you are planning on taking the independent route and finding your own surrogate, or using an agency to guide your search, there’s a good chance that you’ll need a profile as Intended Parents. If your unique situation does call for a complete profile, we’ve got you covered! Keep reading to find out what kind of important details you’ll need to include to ensure you get the best surrogate match possible!

Why Your Intended Parent Profile Matters

Each profile is meant to create a meaningful first impression that showcases the best traits about you as Intended Parents. It basically serves as your resumé so a surrogate can easily assess if you are a good match for them on every level. Making a good first impression through your profile is vital, so you’ll want to show off all the things that make your family unique and special!

Matching with a surrogate that understands you and aligns with your personality and values can make all the difference in your surrogacy experience. Let’s learn more about what your potential surrogate might be looking for in a bio, and what you can do to increase your odds of making a phenomenal match.

What Surrogates Look For

Just like you, surrogates are searching for the perfect fit. They want a smooth and fulfilling process just as much as you do, so they’ll also be putting a lot of thought into making their final decision.

Here are a few criteria that surrogates tend to seek out during their search for their ideal Intended Parents. You’ll want to keep these in mind as you put together your profile:

• Shared values

• Authenticity

• Religious views

• Cultural views

• Lifestyle compatibility

• Emotional stability

• Financial stability

• Communication style (and frequency)

• Your reason for choosing surrogacy

After reading your profile, surrogates should be able to clearly understand your intentions and how ready you are to become a parent. Having a great profile is often the key to finding your ideal match, so take your time and don’t skip any details here!

What to Include in Your Intended Parents Profile

This can get a little detailed, but we’ll just cover the main points here.

Photos of your family and life

You’ll first want to start off by including around 3-5 photos. When selecting your photos, make sure to pick ones that accurately show off your personality, your home, and what makes your family unique!

What activities do you enjoy together? What trips do you take regularly? What is your community like? Think about what would make your profile stand out. You also may want to include a short caption with each photo so they can better understand the context of the images.

A short summary about your family and life

Next, you’ll need to write a few paragraphs (possibly in the form of a letter) sharing more of your background with the surrogate. You’ll want to mention the basics including your hobbies, career, your lifestyle and more about your home.

You’ll want to talk about the relationship with your partner (if applicable), and why you want to be parents/why you’re pursuing birth via surrogate. Be sure to be open about your emotional journey. This alone may be the deciding factor in why a surrogate decides to choose you.

Also include what you hope to find in a surrogate (remember, this is a mutual decision!), your expectations, and the desired level of involvement. Include all of this while maintaining a warm and friendly tone.

Above all, be yourself! The more you can let that shine through, the better matches you’ll receive. No need to overcomplicate this. Next, let’s get into a few mistakes you’ll want to watch out for when it comes to creating your bio.

Avoid these Common Mistakes

When crafting your bio, be sure to avoid some of these common mistakes that can potentially have your ideal match skipping over you.

Speaking too formally or too vaguely

Personality is what is going to help set you apart from the masses. If you’re not speaking naturally in an effort to be more professional, you’re missing out on a huge opportunity to showcase how great of a parent you can be. Show off your fun side, or specific dreams you have for your future family. Share how excited you are for this journey. This one is key.

Only talking about what you want

While your profile is about you, you should also leave a little room to make your potential surrogate feel welcomed. Share why a surrogate would love to go through this journey with Intended Parents like you. What kind of relationship would you like to create with them? Share your gratitude for your potential surrogate, and make an authentic effort to connect with them emotionally so you leave a great impression.

Find Your Ideal Match

To create an Intended Parent profile that shows off what makes you stand out, lean into what makes you unique and qualified. Get specific and connect emotionally. This will not only lead to more surrogate matches, but will make it more likely to catch the eye of a surrogate that would be ideal for you. Don’t take any chances missing out on connecting with your perfect match!

Looking for more guidance here? You’re in luck! Surrogacy Simplified offers a simple and straight forward online course that will walk you through every step of the surrogacy process, from becoming a parent through surrogacy, to the secret sauce to creating an Intended Parent profile that connects. And the best part? You gain access to weekly office hours to ask questions and gain support from others going through surrogacy. Learn more here, and start your surrogacy journey with confidence and clarity.